• Passion vs. Romance (PHOTO)

    A few days ago, I had a "posting conversation" looking at passion versus romance. Here was my take on the comparison:

    I don't want that soap opera, heightened "Scandal" stuff.

    ABC's "Scandal"
    It's entertaining...and desperate. Come Valentine's Day, a card written by their writers would be great...fun. But the everyday type thing I want...not the "Scandal" thing.

    Photo: NY Times
    I think folks tend to confuse passion for romance. Certainly passion is lovely...as long as it doesn't become desperate...which is nearly impossible. The definition of "passion" is an uncontrollable emotion or suffering. It means you will sacrifice and endure all sorts of things for something for which you can not live without. It's why an artist may forgo eating, new clothes, and rent in order to pay for headshots, paint, or music. They are willing to suffer for that which they hold "passion". An example of a further extreme, the "Passion" of the Christ...the 'suffering' of Christ. Passionate...not necessarily romantic. Passion is ONLY overwhelming. That "I will DIE for you" stuff on tv...belongs on TV. If it creeps up, may it only happen in the bedroom...lol...but I don't want desperate emotion. I want genuine gestures of kindness and love. I want to breathe you in when you're with me and miss you when you're gone...but also want opportunities to miss you. I want time apart so the coming together is something to savor. Even after we live together, the days will give moments apart where I can miss you and be thankful when we are together again. That's hinged upon being good with yourself, alone, so you CAN savor the moments together (romantic) and not making the other person your "everything" and the "I'll die without you" person. (passion).

    And yes, there's a lot of "passion" on "Scandal"...but point to the romance?

    And where does being in love fall? My answer is "all over"...as in all over the passion and romance. Love keeps passion from being desperate and romance from being fickle. Love belongs all over...lasting and sustaining.

    But that's just my take.

    With my fiancee, Michelle


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